What is Manipulation?
What is Manipulation?
What is Manipulation? Manipulation is an umbrella term, encompassing a wide variety of behaviors that seek to manipulate, influence, or intimidate another person. It can be subtle or over the top, but always manipulative. In the extreme, it’s the swindlers, tricksters, and frauds who disregard moral values, trust and take advantage of vulnerable individuals. But in most human relationships, manipulation is a gentle persuasion, a tool used to get what you want from others.
When you are dealing with manipulation, it’s important that you understand the concept, so that you can recognize and manage it when it happens. A basic understanding of manipulation is self care. When you manipulate others for your own personal gain or to advance your agenda, you are exercising control and manipulating your own emotional and psychological self. In essence, you are living within a vacuum of your own emotional space, which means that you are not aware of, can’t comprehend, and cannot feel your environment and surrounding the way you are manipulated.
Another fundamental concept that you need to grasp is that manipulation, by its very nature, is a kind of emotional reaction. People behave as if they were angry or sad only because their behavior is related to the situations and people in their environment. If another person manipulates you in a certain way, then it’s not just a matter of force or physical ability; it’s also a matter of choice. You are the one controlling the situation and, in effect, you are choosing how you are going to respond to someone’s manipulative efforts.
Let’s look at an example. Suppose that I am planning to improve my job performance in one particular area and I am going to manipulate someone in order to achieve my goal. Assume further that I have no knowledge of this person, his job description, what he does, how he does it, or what he wants me to do. How can I expect to accurately and reliably evaluate such a person’s ability to improve my job performance?
This is where the concept of mind control and manipulation become very useful. By engaging in the act of influencing another person, you can change the way they respond. You can change their perspective about you-how they see you, how they perceive the task in front of them, how they react to challenges, etc. And you are able to control their behavior through this kind of influence because, ultimately, all manipulation boils down to communication via the four limbs of our brain.
One of the most popular forms of manipulation is behavioral management. Today, managers in large companies are using behavioral management to get what they want. If you look at the typical job performance evaluations in corporate America, you will notice that managers are rated highly on how well they handle subordinate employees. This is because, as their managers manipulate employees on a daily basis, they are able to control who rises and falls in the corporate ladder.
People that engage in manipulative behavior are actually skilled communicators. They understand how human beings work, in order to communicate exactly what they need or want to someone else. Therefore, when someone has been manipulated, or has been forced to behave in a manner which is contrary to their own desires and beliefs, they usually experience feelings of being disrespected, unwanted, and even angry. People use manipulative behavior in order to get what they want. To stop playing the game, you must first understand how manipulative behavior works.
How to stop playing the game is not an easy task. Especially if you believe you have already been the victim of manipulative behavior. That’s why it’s important to engage a good relationship coaching professional, who can help you realize your position, and let you know how to effectively deal with manipulators. Remember, everyone deserves to get a second chance. So, if you feel you’ve been played the first time, don’t hesitate to seek help from a coach today!